Blogging about sex sometimes frustrates and disappoints me. Specifically, my failure to successfully recapture the pleasures experienced during sex frustrates and disappoints me.
Category: Swinging
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More Than Genitals
Last week was fairly dry in terms of sex for us. BG was gone for the week, which meant no play date. I started suffering pain from my recent \”simple procedure,\” enough that I discussed options with the doctor, which included having the procedure reversed and redone with the more common alternative. Concerned for my pain, SwingBot and I agreed to ease up on sex in the mean time. My period started early that week, which generally keeps SwingBot at bay. Finally, as if to seal our lack of activity, SwingBot was not feeling well, suffering intense back pain at the start of the week and coupling that with flu-like symptoms by the weekend.
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Will He Leave Me?
In case swinging does not have enough potential causes for anxiety — having to find compatible partners, performance anxiety, risk of STDs/pregnancy, being outed — there is a niggling worry in the new swinging couple\’s minds: Will s/he find a better sex partner and leave me?
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I Do Not Make Love
The most important concept, I think, for swingers to remember is that sex does not equal love. It is funny that, while we are single, many of us freely give our bodies over to no-strings-attached play in the form of one-night-stands, but once we have committed partners, such enjoyment becomes taboo. One could argue that those one-night-stands might develop into something deeper, I suppose, but I think the dichotomy owes more to societal standards. Just as a man who has many partners is a \”stud\” (good) while a woman who has many partners is a \”slut\” (bad), so it holds with singles versus couples: singles may pursue others while couples are supposed to be only with each other.
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Musical Accompaniment
Last Saturday, we had BG over for our third date within one week. That might be a bit too much in such a short time, but I did enjoy myself.
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Swinging… No Bi Or Single Men
The most common alternative term for swinging is \”wife swapping.\” Not \”husband swapping,\” \”spouse swapping,\” or \”partner swapping.\” \”Wife swapping.\” This term says four things to me.
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Very Casual Evening
Deprive a \”swingle\” of his expected playtime and he shall return for more. At least, that seemed to be the case this week.
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No-Play Date
Apparently, October is Cuddle Month; it has been for me, anyway. SwingBot and I have spent more weekends cuddling together on the couch this month than we typically do in a season, and last night turned into one more cuddle session.
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Empty-Headed But Still Eager
Though my interest in sex is not waning, my ideas seem to be lately. Despite a brief bout of creative thinking last week, I seem to be horny but sexually uninspired lately. My masturbation sessions feel formulaic, and I am unsure when I last instigated a fresh activity in play, whether in twos or threes. Rather than imaginative, I seem to currently be highly susceptible to suggestion.
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Do We Have To?
One question that SwingBot and I never had as we started to explore the swinging lifestyle is \”Do we have to have sex with others when we do not want?\” Why would anyone voluntarily going into an adult hobby even think that s/he would be required to do a sex act that s/he does not want to do? However, I keep running into such questions on a sex forum from those who, like us, are just starting.