Typically, when people argue the \”slut\” label often attached to the label \”bisexual,\” they state, \”Bisexuality is not polyamory.\” This is true, but I think fails to address the bigger point that bisexuality is not a checklist.
\”Greedy\” and \”slut\” are terms often applied to bisexuals, negatively referencing the fact that bisexuals can be attracted to men and women. The major implication is that any bisexual will always require one male lover and one female lover. Certainly, one needs polyamory (or cheating) to make this happen. This is why many bisexuals will emphasize that being bisexual does not mean that one is polyamorous; the bisexual that dates you will not necessarily also date someone of a gender other than yours at the same time.
However, I feel that this still does not address the societal implication that bisexuality is more of a checklist than an orientation. After all, there are polyamorous bisexuals. Are we all maintaining relationships with each sex? Do monoamorous bisexuals satisfy their preferences by alternating relationships: Date a woman now, dump her and date a man, then dump him and date a woman, and so forth?
Being bisexual does not mean the person must satisfy some checklist by dating a certain number of genders within a certain timeframe. A person can be single and celibate and still be bisexual. A woman can be monogamously married to a man and still be bisexual. A man can be in a monogamish relationship with another man and have occasional sex with other men (and no women) and still be bisexual. Bisexuality is a sexual preference, an orientation, not something that owns a person and controls all that a person does… or is.
I define myself as both bisexual and polyamorous: two things that have nothing to do with each other. I find myself attracted to men and attracted to women. I am not limited to being romantically or sexually involved with only one person at a time. But I do not have to be involved with a man and a woman simultaneously (or consecutively) to identify as bisexual.